Adoption Tips: Are Pets Family Members Or Relationship Partners?

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Do you consider pets as family members or relationship partners? A family member if a forever thing, A relatioship partner is someone you are with until things don't feel right for you. If you break up with a relationship partner, they will grieve and move on. If you break up with a pet, they won't have anyone to take care of them anymore.

Here’s an adoption tip: think about adopting a pet as a forever thing.  If you adopt a long-living animal, like a turtle, consider the care of your pet in case you pass on first, just like you would write about care for a child in your will. I’ve always considered pets to be family members.  Maybe you don’t always like them or get along with them, but they are a part of your family.  You work together to find a way for you to get along.

In extreme circumstances, you may need to sever ties with your family member.  But that would be rare and it would only happen after you worked hard to solve your relationship problems.

Pets as Family Members or Relationship Partners?

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Some people consider pets to be relationship partners.  You stay together as long as things are going well between you, but if you don’t get along anymore you should move on.  The trouble with this line of thinking is that a pet is totally dependent on its human. This is an unequal relationship. Many pets form an attachment to their owners and feel despondent when they are rejected.  Because they don’t have the kinds of language and cognitive abilities that humans have, other animals can’t process these terrible feelings of rejection and abandonment. Perhaps you’ll find them a new home where they fit in better and they will be happier. But it is better to have an attitude that you will do everything you can to make your pet happy, rather than having an attitude that you’ll just get rid of it if things don’t work out.

Things to Consider When Adopting a Pet

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The decision to get a pet is one of the most important choices you'll make, and it should never be taken lightly or impulsively. If you truly consider pets as family members, you understand that the commitment involves much more than just providing food and shelter. It means being ready to take on a responsibility that can last for many years, often decades, depending on the species and breed of the animal. When you welcome a pet into your life, you’re promising to care for it, nurture it, and ensure its well-being, much like you would for any loved one.

Before making this life-changing decision, it's essential to do thorough research. Each species and breed of pet comes with its own set of needs and characteristics, so it’s vital to understand what you’re getting into. For example, certain dog breeds require more exercise and attention than others, while some pets, like reptiles or fish, may have very specific habitat and dietary requirements. By researching the species and breed you're considering, you'll have a clearer idea of the pet’s long-term needs, behavior patterns, and potential challenges. This knowledge will help you determine if you're equipped to meet those needs, both emotionally and financially.

It’s also crucial to spend time getting to know the pet before making a commitment. If you’re adopting from a shelter or breeder, take the time to interact with the animal, observe its behavior, and gauge its temperament. Spending time with a pet before adopting allows you to see if you truly connect with them and if their personality is a good fit for your lifestyle. It also gives you the chance to ask questions about their history, medical needs, and any special care they might require.

Adopting a pet is a long-term commitment that involves significant responsibility, including both time and financial costs. Pets need regular veterinary care, proper food, grooming, and plenty of attention and affection. Understanding the costs involved—whether it's regular check-ups, pet insurance, or unexpected medical expenses—is a key part of preparing for life with a pet. If you consider pets as family members, you must be willing to meet all these needs without hesitation, knowing that their well-being depends entirely on you.

By arming yourself with as much information as possible before bringing a pet into your home, you ensure that you’re making a thoughtful, informed decision. Pets enrich our lives in countless ways, but only if we are prepared to offer them the love, care, and attention they deserve. Being a responsible pet owner means being ready to embrace this lifelong commitment and to treat your pets with the same respect and care you would any other family member.

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    Some things to consider include:

    Is anyone in your home, or frequent visitors allergic to animals? Are they allergic to this specific animal?  If they are allergic, would medication help and would they consider taking this medication regularly? There are some cats and dog breeds that are advertised as hypoallergenic, but you should still see if a vulnerable person reacts to them. If someone is allergic, there are many species of pets that people tend not to react to.  Reptiles, fish, and amphibians could make great pets for people who are allergic to mammals.

  • Know how long the animal is expected to live.  Some birds and turtles and other animals will outlive their humans.  What will you do if that happens?  If the animal you choose has a shorter lifespan, can you commit to that amount of time?  Dogs and cats can live up to 20 years. Guinea pigs often live for eight years.  Can you keep the pet for that amount of time?
  • Try to get an idea of the expenses involved in keeping a pet.  These include food, medical care, toys, pet sitting if you go away, training, maintaining a habitat for the pet, and more.
  • Besides the expense of maintaining a habitat, do you have time to keep it clean? A fish tank needs the water changed frequently.  Animals kept in cages need to have the cage cleaned regularly. I often clean my guinea pig's cage two or more times a day! Many lizards need a certain light and temperature so you have to monitor their environment and keep it safe for them.  Can you do all this?
  • Do you have time to pay proper attention to the pet?  Some pets need a lot of attention and some don’t.  Some might actually prefer to be left alone a lot.  So you need to know about the needs of a pet before you adopt it. Some animals will pine away if they don’t have regular positive interactions with their humans.  Some pets want to have interactions with others of their same species. I got two pigs because I was told that they need to be with their own kind.  I also have a small community of guinea pigs for the same reason. Some pets are better off as the only one of their kind in the home.


Commitment and Care: What It Really Means to Adopt a Pet and Ensure Their Future

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Adopting a pet is a serious commitment that should never be taken lightly. Domesticated animals, whether they are cats, dogs, birds, or even smaller creatures like rabbits and hamsters, depend on us for their well-being throughout their entire lives. This includes feeding, grooming, regular veterinary care, and, just as importantly, providing them with love and attention. Before adopting a pet, it's essential to truly understand the responsibility you're taking on. Pets are not short-term companions; they are long-term commitments, often lasting 10, 15, or even 20 years or more, depending on the species.

If you're uncertain whether you're ready for this responsibility, there are other ways to engage with animals that might be a better fit. You could consider fostering, which allows you to care for a pet temporarily and make a positive impact without the long-term commitment. Volunteering at a shelter is another great way to interact with animals and contribute to their well-being without the full responsibility of ownership. Alternatively, if you're looking for a pet that requires less maintenance, consider adopting a fish, turtle, or other low-maintenance animal that fits better with your lifestyle.

It's important to think of pets as family members . Just like any family member, they deserve your time, attention, and care. However, life doesn't always go according to plan. Sometimes, due to changing circumstances or unforeseen events, an adoption may not work out as expected. If this happens, it's crucial to ensure that your pet is rehomed properly to a loving and responsible home. This could involve reaching out to shelters, rescues, or trusted friends and family who can provide the care your pet needs.

When rehoming, make sure to carefully vet the new home, ensuring that it’s a good fit for your pet’s needs, and that they will receive the proper care and attention. The goal is to make sure your pet continues to live a happy, healthy life, no matter where they end up. Being responsible in this way helps ensure that your pet gets the treatment and love they deserve, even if you can no longer provide it.


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